The future of BDSM and dating is going to be a bright one!

M. Christian
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Big changes are coming to BDSM, dating, and every other aspect of human sexuality.    

Technology will play a part in our sexual futures, especially through its continual expansion of our erotic consciousness around orientation, gender, and in our understanding of the importance of consent 

But a bigger driver of these changes will come through evolution.

Social evolution, to be precise. Sure, sextoys and tech have been advancing in leaps and bounds over the last few years. However, it’s nothing compared to how humanity’s attutudes around sex have been progressing.  

Agreed, there have been, and will continue to be, rough patches when it looks way too much like one-step-forward-two steps-back, but we are undeniably making our way forward.

Soon we’ll have all these virtual, digital, genetic, cybernetic, robotic, artificially intelligent playthings, but more importantly we’ll be using them to explore much more enlightened vistas of human sexuality.

Intolerance, shame, guilt, fear, ignorance, and loneliness will be all but forgotten: replaced by limitless erotic pleasures fueld by understanding, respect, tolerance, passion, kindness, and most of all love.

This will be a world where BDSM, and every other form of consensual sexual pleasure, will become just another part of what people do for fun—in orbit or otherwise.  

This, too, will be a world where dating isn’t a minefield of anxiety and/or disappointment but rather a smooth, safe, and fun way to find someone, or someones, to share a life with—or just spend the night together.

It may take a bit of time, but we’re on the way.

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M.Christian (they/them) loves nothing better than exploring the intersections of sex and technology—and speculating on the future of both. A highly regarded erotica writer they have six novels,12 collections, 100+ short stories, and 25 anthologies as an editor to their name. Their non-fiction regularly appears in many sites, but they're most proud of being a regular contributor to Future of Sex. Of their erotic fiction, Tristan Taormino said that “M.Christian is a literary stylist of the highest caliber: smart, funny, frightening, sexy—there's nothing [they] can't write about… and brilliantly.” Reflecting their unique ability to sympathetically and convincingly write for a range of genders and sexual orientations, their stories have appeared in multiple editions of Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, The Mammoth Books of Erotica, and others. Their collection of gay erotic fiction, Dirty Words, was a finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. While a majority of their stories have been collected into books like Dirty Words, their fondness for combining sex and science fiction is clearly evident in collections that include Rude Mechanicals, Technorotica, Better Than The Real Thing, Skin Effect Effect, Bachelor Machine, and Hard Drive: The Best Sci-Fi Erotica of M.Christian. As a novelist, M.Christian’s versatility is on full display with Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Brushes, Painted Doll; and the somewhat controversial queer BDSM/horror/thrillers Finger's Breadth, and Me2. M.Christian has worked on the industry’s production side as an Associate Publisher for Renaissance E Books and as a Publisher for Digital Parchment Services. The latter dedicated to celebrating the works of science-fiction legends such as William Rotsler, Jerome Bixby, Jody Scott, Arthur Byron Cover, Ernest Hogan, and James Van Hise. Covering topics like BDSM safety, sexual education, senior sexuality concerns, queer and gender issues, plus reviewing a variety of sex tech products, M.Christian’s non-fiction has appeared on sites like Kinkly, Tickle.Life, Sexpert, Queer Majority, Sex for Every Body, and—of course—their ongoing work for Future of Sex. If there’s anything M.Christian enjoys more than writing, it’s teaching. A featured presenter, sometimes with their friend Ralph Greco Jr, at national sex and BDSM events, they have lectured on kink play (with an emphasis on safety), polyamory, boosting sexual creativity, and erotica writing--for beginners or those wanting to go pro. M.Christian is a cohost on two popular sex-education podcasts: Love’s Outer Limits with Dr. Amy Marsh and Licking Non-Vanilla with Ralph Greco, Jr.
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